Today I chose to be a listener. I’m not sure what I’d hoped to accomplish with this deliberate choice. Really, I think I just wanted to be there for my kids.
We started our early morning with a swim meet. By 10:30 we were on the road back home. You’d think a 4-hour road trip would be the perfect time for conversation. Well…
The 5th grader had a little school project to finish, so she popped in the ear buds and got to work. The boy popped in a DVD, watched about 4 minutes and promptly fell asleep! Oh well!
What did I do? I left the radio off. Really, that is such a simple thing to do. By having the radio off, I could hear the little sighs and such that Addie would make as she worked. I could ask what she was thinking, where she was stuck, what was on her mind. I treasure all these little nuggets of conversation.
I learned a major lesson from today’s deliberate choice: Listening is hard. You can decided to listen, but you can’t force anyone to talk. My job as a wife and a momma is to be ready to listen when I’m needed.